Mom Guilt and How to Overcome it
This post discusses the insidious, often unspoken mummy guilt that can affect every mother at one time in her. It’s that same feeling within you but compounded and made more complicated by the fact that you are responsible for the well-being of your family. Being a mom isn’t always easy, but it can be more challenging for some moms because of factors over which they have no control. Here are some causes of mom’s guilt and several helpful ways to work through it.
Why Women Might Experience Mom Guilt
1. Judgy Family Members
We all know that sometimes family members can make our lives difficult. And when mom guilt arises from the judgy ways of family members, be in tune with it and learn how to forgive. It’s challenging, but you don’t have to let that person make you or your family feel guilty anymore.
In our society, we often compare ourselves to other moms. But it’s not about comparing to another mom; it’s about the comparison to what you think the rules are that other moms go by when they do things differently than you. When you do this, you may feel more guilt because maybe you feel like your life is worse than someone else’s.
3. Torn Between two Worlds
The difference between a mom and a non-mom can be very stressful, especially if you are a mom and a working professional. The guilt of leaving your kids at home and going off to work can be hard to deal with on top of the guilt about missing out on your child’s life because you are always at work.
4. The Father Factor
Sometimes, moms’ guilty feelings aren’t related to themselves but their children. Although it doesn’t happen much, it is possible for the mother to feel guilty that her child doesn’t have a father. These mothers need help from family, friends, and professionals when they think their guilt is out of control.
Overcoming Mom’s Guilt
1. Listen to Your Intuition
One of the best ways to effectively deal with mom’s guilt is to follow your inner voice and listen to it. Your intuition is a powerful tool that can guide you in many ways and empower you to overcome the mom guilt issue.
2. Discover the Source
One way to overcome mom’s guilt is by identifying its source. Was it something you did or didn’t do? Some mothers experience guilt about how they are parenting or that they aren’t parenting enough.
Other moms feel guilty for not breastfeeding, being too involved, not being there enough, feeling like a lousy wife, etc. However, once mom’s guilt manifests in your life, it is helpful to admit it, work through the source of this feeling, and heal from it.
3. Use a Parenting Coach
Your parenting coach can help you process your mom’s guilt safely and effectively. This way, you can identify what type of guilt you experience, where it is in your mind, and how to eliminate it from your life. The process may also assist you in identifying strategies for dealing with your mom’s guilt in the future.
4. Avoid the Blame Game
The blame game adds fuel to the fire, so steer clear of it. Your baby didn’t die because you did something wrong, this is not your fault, and it’s not your responsibility to make it right. So, don’t blame yourself or try to find a way to make up for what has happened.
You are a great mother. Despite what you may have been through, you’ve survived and had a fantastic future. Work to overcome your guilt because guilt only causes harm to your life and the lives of those you love.